Nice guy, not for me. Maybe for someone I know? The important thing is beginning. As in any process, it takes time to figure out what you want and what works for you.
I see dating in the same way as trying on new clothes, seeing what fits, what works on my body, what looks like I'm trying too hard, what is pretty but not on me. It's hard to know what works without trying things on. If I ponder what clothing will fit well, I may never know what really works. I might be surprised with the perfect match of a color or look that I thought wouldn't be for me. But I would never know if I just sat home thinking about it.
So, I embark on trying on dates, seeing who I am after a 25-year dating hiatus, seeing who men are after marriage, divorce, death of a spouse. Who we all have become after careers, managing or mismanaging our lives, becoming parents, owning homes. None of the same blueprints as 25 years ago. Lots to learn and discover.
What's the most significant way you have changed in the last 25 years?
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In the last twenty five years, I've had 2 had two beautiful girls, gotten divorced, come out of a deep state of depression, been remarried, and changed my whole belief systems regarding religion. Wow. That's quite a bit in just a short 25 years. I've gone from deciding the world would be a better place without me, to now being the happiest person I know. But as you said, it all comes about when you try new things on to see how they fit! Because of that, I find joy in all things and appreciate life in a way I never thought possible! So keep on experimenting. It's worth seeing what fits for you.
ReplyDeletePat, I am awed by your inspiring transformations. I am so glad the world did not lose such a lovely soul. You have so much to give, and a lucky family to appreciate it. Keep on sharing your gifts.
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