Tonight is my first date in 25 years. Two years after my divorce, I met this guy on an online dating site, and he seems like a really good guy, impeccable values, great reflective listening skills, self-aware, willing to take responsibility for what he has created in his life. When we meet for dinner tonight, I want to have meaningful conversation, which is not a stretch for me. What is a stretch is being more deliberate about what I ask him. I am really curious to know him better, and I find that since we have a limited time to get to know anyone, why not make the best of it?
So, I devised a questionnaire to give me clarity about where I want the conversation to go tonight. I am sure that I will end up not asking some of these questions, and being the flexible and spontaneous person that I am, who knows where the conversation will actually go. I have no clue as to where he will be directing the conversation (after all, there are two of us in the equation), but the questions are basically here for me to set an intention about what I want to create tonight.
Dating Questions:
1) What's a hidden talent or passion that you have?
2) What are you most afraid of?
3) What's holding you back in life?
4) What do you want more of? Less of?
5) Five years from now, where do you see yourself?
6) If you had a magic wand and could
change anything in your life,
what would you change?
7) What's the scariest thing you ever did?
Yes, I am aware that it sounds like I am coaching him, but you can't take the Life Coach out of me. It is really who I am, not a role I play with my clients. Becoming a life coach changed my life and opened my world to better self-awareness and self-expression. I utilize those skills every day. And I think that they will come in handy when navigating the dating world.
What questions would you add to the list?
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