When People Are Not Accountable

Yesterday,  I had very little patience. I was reactive and angry. My daughter kept telling me to chill out, which just added fuel to the fire. There's nothing worse than having someone tell you to suppress an emotion. Here's my trigger: I hate it when people don't keep their word. I take my promises very seriously. If I say I will call you at a certain time, you can be pretty sure that I will call. If I say that I will show up to something, I am there. Of course, there have been exceptions when I have been so stressed that I have forgotten an appointment, like when I forgot about my son's kindergarten interview, but these are few and far between.

So, without going into specific detail and incriminating or embarrassing anyone, I will outline my plan to prevent future frustration from lack of accountability.

1) State what didn't work for me from the get go. In other words, don't let it build up until it's the second or third time. Discuss what didn't work when it first occurs and there will be less of a charge in the way it is expressed.

2) Clearly state what didn't work. 

3) Discuss options for what would work better in the future.

I am currently working on my own personal bill of rights. I want to be crystal clear about what people can expect from me in all my relationships, whether it is with my kids, my clients, my friends, or anyone for that matter, I want to be true to my integrity.

I will post my bill of rights in a future blog. I would encourage you to come up with your own bill of rights. I would love to hear what you think is non-negotiable when it comes to how you want others to be with you and how you will show up for them. Wouldn't it be great if we all walked around with that tattooed to our forehead so that everyone would treat each other exactly how we needed to be treated?